The Penny Post
Tone of voice
By Andrei Codrescu
The hardest task of the ordinary citizen now is to know just what tone to take with those who decide ones fate. It was easier back when one might, theoretically, encounter the powers face to face. In those days, words were accompanied with body language, and when one got to the end of words with a boss or a bureaucrat, one could simply end the conversation by slugging him. Doing that to a mechanical voice on the phone or to an e-mail address is useless because one hurts only ones own person and objects. I would like to have a recording of all the expletives people uttered while on hold with corporate entities, and then Id like to release it as a CD, free to all the executives of corporations and members of the government. To play at Christmas. Or whenever. Christmas would be best, though the family around the tree, chestnuts in the fire, then boom, Expletives While on Hold, great Christmas hit of 2005.
Anyway, back to tone, in case one does manage to speak to a human on the phone and in person. By the time such a contemporary miracle is achieved, most people feel like screaming. Then, depending on how civilized, repressed or afraid they are, they produce a variety of tones from reasonableness to pleading to threatening, all of which are only modulations of the primal scream. Yet it is possible for the petitioner to get a modicum of justice if one keeps firmly in mind that 1) no one is completely powerless for the simple reason that one can become totally insane, and 2) the audience is by itself proof that something can come of it. With those two principles in mind, one can work on ones tone of voice. Successful tones of voice, those that get results, that is, also include something seductive, a promise of something good for the boss, a wad of cash, a fling, a free vacation, a post-encounter feeling of smugness (for him, the grantor of mercy). In other words, if you get a hold of a human either on the phone or in the physical world, dont freak out until you get what you want. I shoulda been Ann Landers.
Of course, chances that youll ever get to speak to anyone who will actually fix your problem are nil. Power has learned the greatest kung-fu move of all time: make yourself invisible. Make anger rebound on the angry. Put as much distance between yourself and the object of your extortive and impersonal tyranny as possible. Power is nowhere and everywhere at the same time, while you, the screwed, are always in a specific place and time, trying to transcend what hurt you in the first place.
Latin languages made provisions for relations of power by the use of different forms of second-person address. There are four different kinds of you in Spanish, implying different degrees of respect. Such forms of address serve in themselves to moderate relationships and to prevent screaming. Such forms were developed, of course, in the days when people dealt with people, even if some people were peasants and others sat on thrones.
These days, Dont take that tone with me is quaint, except for family, which is the last place people run into people.